Debating on whether or not you and your partner should do a first look? I’ve come up with a list of pros and cons that will hopefully make your decision a little easier.
Note: I am on board with whatever you decide! I want your wedding photos to be authentically you, so you do you! Saying “pros and cons” makes the title easier, but truly there’s no right or wrong way—do what fits your timeline and preferences best.
4 Reasons to Consider a First Look
Take a Moment
When you have a first look, it allows you to have some privacy with your soon-to-be spouse. The rest of the day will be very busy greeting, thanking, and chatting with all of your guests, so it’s nice to spend some time alone together before everything begins.
Calm Your Nerves
While you may not have cold feet, your wedding day can still give you the jitters. It can be nerve-wracking standing in front of all those people to declare your love to the world. However, with a first look, you can both take a breath together and relax. This day is about you two spending the rest of your lives together. It shouldn’t be stressful!
Priceless Photos
As a photographer, I am a big fan of first look photos! Imagine the look on your face at the exact moment you see the bride in her wedding dress and having that captured in a photograph forever. It truly is such a spectacular and meaningful event! However, we can still get that emotional first look across the aisle too (make a grand entrance and take your time walking down the aisle).
Let Out Emotions
Many couples tear up once they reach the end of the aisle. If you don’t feel like letting your emotions loose during your ceremony, you may want to consider having a first look. This way, you can both let out all of your emotions beforehand, and then you will be calm and collected during the ceremony. This will also give you a chance to touch up your makeup after shedding a few tears of joy!
4 Reasons a First Look May Not Be Your Thing
A First Look is Somewhat Non-Traditional
A first look is not considered traditional (although it’s become very common). The old rule is that couples should not see each other the night before the wedding until they meet at the end of the aisle. You may choose to honor that tradition for any number of reasons! And there are still things you can do before the ceremony like a “first touch” around a door (cute photos!), love letters, or a phone call.
Takes Extra Time Before the Ceremony (But Saves Time After)
Adding in a first look means that you will have to get ready earlier to allow time for this photo session. You’ll need to make sure there is plenty of extra time in your schedule so that you are not late for the ceremony. However, if you want to enjoy cocktail hour with your guests right after an afternoon/evening ceremony, a first look lets you take the couples, wedding party, and family portraits out of the way early.
A Lost Moment
While it may be nice to get all your tears out before the ceremony, some couples feel that this takes away from the big reveal when you are walking down the aisle. If you want all of your raw emotion to be in that moment, a first look might not be for you.
Poor Lighting
If you decide to have a first look, you may end up with poor lighting earlier in the day. For example, if you have your first look in the afternoon, the sunlight can be a bit harsh at that time, and you could have a difficult time getting quality photos. If this happens, you could end up having to take your couple’s photos again after the ceremony. We can make either work if we plan ahead of time!
Still On the Fence about a First Look? I’m Here to Help!
When it comes to a first look, there are many “pros and cons,” but don’t be afraid to do what is best for you as a couple. This is YOUR wedding day, so that means you make your own rules! A first look is a great option, but it’s also not the only option. And I’m here to answer any questions or concerns you may have about photos on your big day. As a globe-traveling photographer, I’ve come across it all and would love to help you iron out the details. Get in touch with me here to get started.
You can also find me on Instagram @jesseeallenphotography for tips and inspiration.
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